Being arrogant, rude or abusive will only lead to alienation and possibly being banned from using the boards.
If unsure whether you’re acting in line, ask yourself whether you would say it to the person’s face.
If you want to keep them at arm’s length for a while longer, don’t give out your messenger address. Get to know each other over the web, email each other a few times or instant chat, and eventually start talking over the phone before you meet.
If you were in the street and this happened, you’d feel uncomfortable, however here it is par for the course.
However it can lead to obsessive behaviour, verging on stalking.
Constantly being barraged with messages when you are working/ busy can be really annoying, and feel invasive.
If the need ever arises, I will return with lightening speed.
Without the barrier of geographical location chatting online means you can meet all sorts of people.