“Before you get to know one another, cleverness can come off as sarcastic,” warns Judsen Culbreth, author of .“It’s better to project warmth.” To figure out if your email is coming across as genuine, try reading it out loud.Case history: “The first time Jim [who’s now my boyfriend] wrote me, he wasn’t scared to be sincere, which made me really want to get to know him.Too many guys are too glib and just try to outwit me.Ask them a question about what they’ve written in their profile - If they say they love going on long walks in the countryside ask them where they like to walk.This shows that you’re interested in finding out more about them and aren’t a “me, me, me” kind of person.
“The formula for writing the first email is very easy: Take one thing out of the person’s profile and say you noticed it,” says Liz Kelly, dating coach and author of .
Remember to spell check - Spelling isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but make sure you triple check everything; especially if you’re using predictive text as it can lead to embarrassing mistakes.
DON’T WRITE IN CAPITALS ONLY - Bizarrely a lot of people choose to write in only capitals in their message.
If it sounds conversational—like something you’d actually say face to face—then you’re on the right track.
Also get Case history: “I can’t tell you how many times I’ve written back to a member just because they started their email to me with ‘Hello’ and then my online name, instead of just a generic ‘Hey! Next time you’re about to say something to someone you know, plug the person’s name into the sentence.