Painstakingly and with infinite patience, Henny taught him how. Someone was knocking on our bedroom door.” The loud knocking woke them up.One night several days later, at 3 AM, there was a knock on the door. Alarmed at what must be an emergency, Rabbi Machlis went to the door and asked, “Who’s there?got the reputation of being the Black Women’s website that promotes interracial dating and marriage and all that. Whatever the case, I feel the need to say that while we believe you should keep your options open when it comes to finding love, you shouldn’t begin your quest with skin tone or racial and ethnic modifiers.And personally, I, Veronica, believe that while black men are flawed like all men, you’ll never catch me out here denouncing all of them.
I would think the universal truth that characteristics that make a good partner are not predicated by race and ethnicity is understood by all. Nazaree Hines-Starr, a full time pharmacist and author, recently published a book called Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man. Before I even begin to dissect the problematic nature of such a premise, let me just share a bit of Hines-Starr’s background and the reasoning she shares for dating and marrying a Jewish man.
Jerusalemites would say it was her cooking for and serving up to 300 guests every Shabbos in her cramped Jerusalem apartment.
The guests – almost 150 for the Shabbat night meal and over 100 for the Shabbat day meal – ranged from curious tourists and university students to lonely widows and singles to drunks and mentally ill people who considered the Machlis family’s love and warmth more delectable than even their ample food.
When you reduce people down to a few characteristics, it robs them of their humanity, which is complex.
I wonder if it ever occurred to Hines-Starr that while there are certain culture attitudes that are passed down from generation to generation, the emphasis on education, family and financial security are not just things the Jewish community cares about.